Author and Motivational Speaker George Barker (Don’t Be a Cow!) offers insights toward happiness and empowering yourself.

What Does This Picture Say to You?

Well, I sent this photo to some friends and here are a few of the responses:

Close up of a sunflower communicating happiness

  • Happy
  • Sun
  • Good Morning
  • Happiness
  • Growth
  • Summer Sunshine
  • Dove Field (ranks among the best)
  • Sunflower (needed to add, I’m a plant I can’t speak any words you idiot!), and
  • Purdy.

It’s simply amazing when you think of all the images that our eyes and mind process every day. Many of these images actually speak to us and some don’t. Think of all the words one image can communicate where not a word is spoken.

Where is the expression/body language …

Rachel and I recently watched Hitched, a 1995 movie (it tells you how up to date our movie watching is!) starring Will Smith. In the movie, he says communication is 60% expression and body language, 30% tone and only 10% verbal. Close your eyes for a minute and think about those percentages. Now think about today’s communications: With texting and emails probably constituting 80% of today’s communication, his calculation of expression and body language means 90% of communication is not utilized … because we’re just using electronic means to talk to one another.

… and where is the tone?

The unfortunate part is that because these two aspects of communications are largely missing, they can become implied. Seriously, have you ever read an email and wondered why the person seemed so uptight, angry, or just uninviting? I’ve even gone back to a previous email I sent to see if I said something that was misinterpreted. The fact is,  that we really don’t know what the person’s tone is because we can’t hear it; personally, I try to create a tone based on words on a sheet of paper (or screen), but not everyone bothers.

Try calling or visiting an old friend and reopen the lines of communications in your life.

I’m not quite sure why I remember this but I do. It was a television commercial from many years ago. It was for United Airlines. A bunch of sales people and executives sitting around a large conference table. The boss is walking around the table handing out airline tickets to everyone seated at the table. He is saying something to the effect, “we are all going to make some personal visits to our clients.” One of the attendees ask the boss, “and where are you going?” He pulls an airline ticket out of his back pocket and says, “I’m going to visit our oldest client.”

Translation: Nothing can replace personal contact.

Modern communications are an amazing thing. One of the things that is funny to me is that I can’t hardly remember a time when we didn’t have cell phones. I don’t know about you, but I have enjoyed some good laughs texting, and some of the jokes that have crossed my desk via email have been great; however, they can’t replace real live human interaction.

Humans need personal interaction.  Now I know there are some fellow introverts out there, but we all need it, albeit maybe in varying amounts. Remember the movie where Tom Hanks gets plane-wrecked on a remote island? An excellent example of what happens when we are removed from any human interaction.

Soulful Quote:

Communications are 60% expression & body language, 30% tone, and only 10% verbal – Will Smith’s character in Hitch (2005)

Song:

“Communication Breakdown” by Led Zepplin

Game Exercise/Life Changer:

Close your eyes and repeat the soulful quote. With your eyes still closed,  ask yourself “how can I bring back the 90% of communications lost in my life?” Meet an old friend or family member for coffee, lunch or maybe even an afterwork beverage this week. Make the time and make the agreement to leave your phones out of the conversations except to show a picture or two. Not only is this a really fun Game Exercise, but can be very rewarding in our pursuits of Happiness!

For more great soulful quotes, songs and game exercises, get a copy of  our book, Don’t Be a Cow! available online from Amazon, Barnes and Noble and Independent Books.

And feel free to comment below: What does the SUNFLOWER say to You! 

 

PASSION: Is Yours Hiding? Live Happier. Live Well.

Passion: Is Yours Hiding?

I don’t know about y’all, but I think the word passion is under used and misunderstood today. Which I think is unfortunate. 

First, what passion is (according to me): Passion is an internal feeling about something, someone (LOVE!), or someplace. Passion comes from the heart, or for those of you that believe the heart is simply an organ that pumps blood, passion comes from our soul. 

A human being consists of three parts: the mind, the body and the soul (or spirit if you prefer). Passion comes from the soul. The great thing about passion is that it totally ignores the mind and the body. Think about it. You wake in the morning and your “passion” is telling you a doughnut and latte is a must for breakfast today. There is nothing the mind or body can do to stop you. We generally refer to this type of passion as a craving. Likewise, passion tells us to ignore the mind telling us what other people may think or say about us when we are following our passion. “This is just too important of an issue to care about what people are thinking or saying.”

Today’s Misunderstanding:

Today people often confuse passion for fanaticism. In conversations I have had with people, I can sense caution when I use the word passion because they now associate passion with fanaticism. Passion doesn’t necessarily mean running through the streets screaming at the top of your lungs, it doesn’t require you to lay in the middle of the road, or chain yourself to a tree. And, it certainly doesn’t involve being vulgar, mean, rude, or threatening. In fact, I would say that these are just the opposite of passion.

Remember the three parts of the human? The mind, the body and the soul (heart)? Passion comes from the heart whereas, fanaticism comes from the mind. The mind convinces us that we must do these things to be heard and/or to be seen. Although it may be true that you are seen on the nightly news and you may even be heard but … is anyone listening? These types of tactics appease the mind that you are popular, that you are making a difference. But, are you? Admittedly there are times for extremes measures, but they are far and few between.

Now I must get back to Passion (for this is mine!):

Passion is an internal driver. It has no, or very little need, to appease the mind. Passion is that thing that should drive your life and it likely will change throughout your life. We should feel passionate about what we are doing each and every day. When Rachel and I were raising our kids, our passion was raising kids. Now that they have all moved out, our passions have shifted. It’s not so important as to what your passions may be at any one point in time. It’s important that you have passion. If we are not careful, it’s easy to lose passion. It can sometime get run over on that highway called everyday living.

Passion Check, Break it Down!

Passion: Pass – i – on – passing (sharing) – i (a part of yourself) – on (with others) (my apologies to the phonetics out there). Our destiny in life is sharing our talents for the benefit of others – Passion; Pass it on!

Remember, remember where passion lives? The heart. When our passion dies, so does our heart. As a person with heart disease, believe me it’s no fun when the heart dies. 

Rachel and I hope that if your passion has been running low, you will take the time to rekindle it. It is a must for living a happier lifestyle.

Soulful Quote:

“Success is going from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm” (passion!) – Winston Churchill

Song:

“Bridge over Troubled Waters” written by Paul Simon performed by Simon & Garfunkel.

Game Exercise/Life Changer: Take a few minutes to reflect on your passion. What is it today that is motivating you? Nothing? Let’s see if we can change that!

What is Your PASSION! Share it with us below:

Independence Day 2019- Reminders for a Happier Life

HAPPY 4TH OF JULY EVERYBODY!!!

Rachel and I hope that everyone has a Happy and Safe 4th.

A Quick thought:

As we celebrate this Independence Day, we hope you will also take a few moments to celebrate your independence from the herd. You know what I mean: Those societal pressures that hold you back from being the person you are meant to be.

Fret not, it happens to all of us from time to time. We just don’t want to make it a lifelong endeavor. Keeping ourselves separated from the herd, is a daily pursuit.

As a nation, we must work daily to keep our freedom, liberties and independence. As individuals, we too must work daily to keep on our own path of happiness and prosperity.

This Independence Day weekend may be a good time to check your own independence from the herd!

When’s the last time you read your copy of Don’t Be A Cow?

George

PS If you’re at the beach this holiday, why not take a selfie of you reading Don’t Be a Cow! and share it with us. Either here or our Facebook page.

Don’t Stop Now; You Are, Oh, So Close!

I have always found it amazing, all the fine lines life that has to offer. What do I mean by fine lines? Well, let me explain. But, before I do let me say that to truly appreciate this blog you need to keep an open mind, and do not take things too literal.

image of a person balancing between a lineThe fine line between two points.

So, what do I mean by fine lines? I’ll give you some examples. Rachel will always tell me that there is a fine line between a forester and a pyromaniac. There is a fine line between a criminal and a person of the law. I remember the Pink Panther movies of old, where Inspector Clouseau would say something to the effect: “to catch the thief I have to think like the thief.” The two, the inspector and the thief, share the same thought process. It’s just that they worked for different outcomes. I have also heard it said that there is a fine line between a genus and an imbecile.

.001 seconds.

I can also go beyond professions and personality traits. In business, I have had ventures that were so close to going big, but by the narrowest of margins they slumped. I have also had business ventures that were on the brink of total collapse and then, at the last minute, a miracle would happen and bam! I was off running. Both of these instances represent that very fine line between success and failure. I have also heard sports enthusiasts say the same thing between winning and losing. Think about gold medals being won and lost by .001 seconds. I would say that’s a pretty fine line.

Ebb and flow of water at beachFlo, met Ebb.

I know, I know, what does this have to do with living a happier life? For most of us, life is a series of ebbs and flows or not-so-good times and good times. You’ve heard it a thousand times but I’m going to say it again: “We have to take the bad with the good.” Our goal in life, at least I hope so anyway, is to have more flows than ebbs, more good than not-so-good. With all the daily clutter of everyday life, it’s sometimes hard to see.

Take a good look.

See that those same fine lines we talked about earlier exist everywhere. That’s right, they lie between the ebbs and flows, the not-so-good times and the good times. Take the following two examples: Work is humming along (good), then you get a nasty comment from your boss or coworker and it sends you down into a spiral of ebbs (bad). Example 2: Conversely, we can be in a period where nothing seems to be going right, bored out of our minds, the phone rings and it’s that offer for the new position you’ve been wanting for, for the longest time, and now you’re euphoric because life begins to flow in the right direction again.

Cross that line.

Usually, the good times and the not-so-good times, seem like light years a part. This can leave us with an empty feeling of hopelessness; however, if we can acknowledge that these times in our life are only separated with the finest of lines, it gives us hope. Not only do we have a renewed sense of hope, but we begin to look for things to break the streak because we understand that we are talking about a fine line and not crossing the ocean. Generally, when we seek with enthusiasm and perseverance we find.

Look for the fine lines and your life and see how easy it can be to cross that very fine line. Also remember that you can be that person who offers a kind word or gesture to someone else which enables them to cross their very fine line as well.

Soulful Quote:

“You find out life’s this game of inches, so is football. Because in either game – life or football- the margin of error is so small.” – Tony D’Amato

Yes, Tony, but the margin of victory is also so small. It’s just a fine line.

“Life – it’s a game of inches, make that decision to take that inch step towards a Happier Life” – George Barker

Song:

“Piano Man” by Billy Joel.

This might be a reach for some of you, but when it popped into my head, I thought it was spot on and I have always loved this song. I picture all the locals standing around a piano lamenting on everything in life they could’ve had. Had they only realized that their dreams were simply a fine line away!

Game Exercise/Life Changer:

Write down some fine lines in your life. You may think some obstacles may have been more like mountains but I bet if you look hard enough you will find a very fine line.

 

Please share your thoughts and share with others!!!

What makes two things great together?

I have never been much on class reunions. No particular reason, I have just never really gotten into them and thus have never been to one. Needless to say, for me, it’s been a long time and some 500 miles since I’ve walked the halls of my high school. Heck, it’s been 15-plus years since I have even been to the city in which I spent my younger years. So, Rachel and I decided we were ready for an adventure, so off we will go. We don’t actually have tickets to the reunion (it is sold out), so it is still uncertain if we will actually make it to the reunion itself.

And this upcoming reunion got me thinking: Not so much about high school itself, but the era in which I grew up. Often when we reflect on the past, we think of fashion, popular activities, popular television shows, and possibly news headlines of the day. I ended up thinking of television commercials. There was one commercial in particular that really stood out for me. Why it did will become evident later. For me, this commercial was the introduction of quite possibly the greatest of all American inventions.

Here’s the scenario:

Two people are walking down the street, one eating peanut butter and one eating chocolate, and they collide. One person exclaims, “You got your peanut butter on my chocolate!” and the other exclaims, “You got your chocolate in my peanut butter!”. They then sample the mixture and remark on the great taste, tying in with the slogan “Two great tastes that taste great together.” Have you guessed yet? It was for Reese’s Peanut Butter Cups and the campaign was a huge hit; it even featured celebrities at one point.

Do you remember this one? A Classic. 

Opposites attract and compatibility

Opposites attract art by Priscilla WolfeDuring this same era, I also remember a phrase that was used in describing friendships and relationships. That phrase was “opposites attract” just like chocolate and peanut butter!

With so many dating services airing commercials (several which are quite comical), all we hear about is “compatibility.” So, if opposites attract (my era) then what’s all this about compatibility (the current era?) Confusing at best, but the more I think about it, the more there’s an argument that they can work together. Hear me out.

What does all this have to do with happiness? Actually, a lot, bear with me.

At the very core of all our happiness is our relationships. First, our relationship with ourselves and second, our relationship with others. Here is why I think the phrase “opposites attract” is so powerful in our relationships.

One of the struggles we can have as we go through life is reconciling with ourselves our own weaknesses. Our weaknesses represent areas in our lives where we can feel vulnerable. As a consequence, we often spend an inordinate amount of time trying to hide these weaknesses instead of polishing our strengths.

I believe that when we join with others who have different strengths, and we gain the trust of those people, we are able to allow them to overshadow our weaknesses so we don’t have to try and cover up these weaknesses any longer. Thus, we can return our focus back to our own strengths.

And here’s where compatibility comes in.

I don’t tend to speak up in crowds. I generally would never even ask a question in class; however, I always had a friend who was nearby who would. I would simply whisper or make a statement or ask a question under my breath and they would be sure to blab it out. This would allow me to use my brain to think up more questions and comments and not using my brain to beat myself up for not speaking up. Opposites? Yes. Compatible. Well, in a way, right? Definitely symbiotic! 

We have to look no further to see the benefits of “opposites attracting” and compatibility than that simply delicious little confectionary delight we’ve all come to know as the Reese’s Peanut Butter Cup. See what I did here? Yum!

However, and not to put too fine a point on it …

I’m not trying to knock dating/match making sites; they certainly have their place in today’s society. But, I do think that maybe too much emphasis is being placed on compatibility as a goal, a black and white up or down vote. I mean, think about it: If two art-minded people get together, who’s going to balance the checkbook or if two math-minded people get married who’s going to going to create something new for supper?  Of course, if they are both successful, they could eat out every week and hire an accountant. But, for most of us, life, relationships and compatibility is all about balance – and that will make one much happier.

Read this Related blog post: “Opposites Attract”

Now… about that reunion …

Soulful Quote:

Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.

  • Carl Jung Psychologist (1875-1961)

Song:

  • “Stairway to Heaven” by Led Zeppelin (Just because the powers-to-be wouldn’t let us have it for our class song!)

Game Exercise/Life Changer:

Take a few minutes to think about your closest friend(s) and/or spouse if you are married. How does “opposites attract” fall in your relationships? And please allow yourself to enjoy a Reese’s Peanut Butter Cup in the process. (sorry for all of you with peanut allergies …)

Self Reliance: What is it? What does it mean?

Is it a good thing or a not-so-good thing?

A school of thought says man is to live in community, therefore all must contribute to the community, and all must rely on the community. This contribute-and-rely relationship forms a bond between the individual and the community. This may sound like a great concept, but it has a major flaw: It overlooks individuality!

Humans are born as individuals; this is a biological fact. A child is born as its own individual. Yes, it carries jeans – I know it’s “genes,” but I’m trying to lighten up this heavy, but important subject – and to see if you were paying attention. 🙂

From each parent the child inherits those genes, so there are direct similarities, but the child is also uniquely different. This unique difference and its importance to life is huge.

How does this relate?

Bear with me … We are all unique, thus we are all, to use a well-meaning metaphor, meant to be the “black sheep.” For some, this uniqueness is obvious and for others it is much subtler.

Discovering our uniqueness is key to finding happiness because it defines us as an individual. When we know who we are as individuals, we can be ourselves, comfortably without having to try and prove to others who we are.

Although this may sound simple and straight-forward, discovering this uniqueness is complicated by the fact that most of us spend the first eighteen years of our lives living is close relationship (community-family) with people whom we share similarities (genes) and perhaps not much else. As we start out as infants, we rely totally on our parents and, sometimes, even older siblings.

Related: 10 key lessons in the art of being self reliant 

Choosing your battles wisely

As we grow older, this family attempts to mold us into a shape that fits the family. This is not necessarily a good or bad thing – it just is. This process is where rebellion comes into play as individuals seek individuality apart from their family. Whereas rebellion is a natural part of maturing into an individual, it can often linger for a lifetime. This occurs when the individual is rebelling for rebellion sake and not rebelling as a natural process of becoming their own self. (I see a lot of nodding heads out there).

To complicate matters even further is that our lives incorporate more than just our family. Our community grows to include all the people that we live and interact with daily. As we get older, especially in the teen years, this larger community begins to influence us as individuals to conform to the shape or norms of the community.

Okay, a little deep, I understand, especially for a layman and not an accredited psychologist, so let me move on. However, seeing it for what it is helps us understand the magnitude and relevance our community plays in our lives. Breaking away from the conformity of the community can be difficult. I’m not saying to become the Unibomber  – a society has to put some bounds on freedom. But, your unique individuality is important to the community. Choosing to become a productive part of the community that people can depend upon – rather than someone dependent upon others – is why self-reliance is so important.

Where self-reliance comes in

The breaking of this bond with the community is called becoming self-reliant. Ok, so why is this so important? Because self-reliance equals freedom.

Self reliance is quite simply the ability to take care of yourself.

Let me explain:

Think of your unique individuality as a bird in a series of cages: The first cage is your heart, the second is your mind, and the third is just this big cumbersome cage that sort of holds the other two cages in place, call it the body.

Parrot in a cageIt is somewhat easy to let the bird out of the first cage because it is our true desire our yearning. The second cage is a real bother because family, friends, and society all have their hands on all the cage doors. “You don’t want to do that! You would be better off doing this!” Once we are able – if we are able – to break out of second cage, the third becomes somewhat easier. This is the cage of the “self.” Represented by the body because of the physical nature, as our bird leaves this final cage, it will be exposed to the world. It will be shot at, it will be laughed at, and it may be ridiculed: “what an ugly duckling,” comes to mind; yet, out of all three cages, out past the blazing guns and laughing hyenas, lies happiness.

Although getting out of all three cages is difficult, there is one key that works on all three cages – that key is self-reliance!

Once you become self-reliant, you can live a fulfilling and purposeful life by sharing your unique gift and your talents with the community.

This is Happiness! And you can get there. Don’t Be A Cow!

Commencement 2019. You made it this far.

What a wonderful time of year. The grass is green, the sun is shining and the days are getting longer! And, oh yeah, how could I forget graduations are in full swing?

So here is to you, Graduate, and a nice reminder to us all. Short and sweet!

Three Simple Things:

# 1 ATTITUDE

This is yours. It is the one thing, the only thing I might add, that you have total control over. This is unless you hand control over to someone else. I implore you to never allow your attitudeto be controlled by others. You have heard that “Perception is Reality?” Your Perception stems from your attitude; therefore, if your attitude is good your perception will be good and your reality will be great! For you see, Good + Good = Great!

Attitude – never ever forget that yours is yours and yours alone!

# 2 THE BIG PICTURE

Picture yourself as the only human being left on earth. Even for an introvert such as myself, being totally alone forever is a depressing thought. My point is that people are necessary, and yes all people, although that is pretty hard to comprehend at times. They may not all agree with you or like doing the things you like doing, but believe it or not, they are all necessary. In the Big Pictureof everybody in the world, where do you fit in? What can you contribute to the greater good of everybody? You have a talent that is unique to only you. Discovering that talent and putting it to use for the greater good will far outpace putting your talents to use for selfish pursuits over the long run.

The Big Picture – you are not the sole person in this world, nor want to be, remember that!

 # 3 HOUSING

You all, I’m sure, have heard of the following two phrases:

  • You are what you eat
  • No pain, no gain

Food fuels our bodies, and we all have different fuel requirements just as airplanes, rockets, tractors, cars, and boats all need fuel. They all use different types of fuels and we humans are no different. There is no one set of fuel for all.

Exercise compensates our bodies for the mostly sedentary lifestyles we live today. But like different fuel requirements, we all have different exercise requirements. Some need to put themselves through excruciating pain to feel as though they have accomplished something whereas others can simply go for a nice stroll through the park.

Our bodies are where we house Attitudes,and our Big Picture. As long as our housing unit does not take away from those two things, all is good. We were not all meant to be Barbie and Ken (or anywhere close thankfully!).

Take care of your House!

In closing, I congratulate you and you alone for this is your accomplishment. You too should congratulate yourself on a job well done — It’s Over!

I hope you will always remember:

  • the mind – attitude – is yours to control
  • the soul – the big picture – your heart
  • the body – housing – simply holds the other two while you are on earth

Keep all three in proportion, for these are you and you alone!

PS Please enjoy the ride as you go!

Quote:“We don’t stop going to school when we graduate.” Carol Burnette

Song: “Take it Easy” – The Eagles

Game Exercise:Take some time this week to simply enjoy the moment. It would be great if you would go for a walk by yourself or go find a nice park bench by yourself and take a few minutes to reflect on all that you have done in your life.

I think it is so sad. And here’s why.

If given the chance, would you rather be given a million dollars or would you rather earn a million dollars?

Several months ago, I was listening to a local radio station and the two DJ’s were discussing a survey that asked people that question. The overwhelming majority of people said that they would rather be given a million dollars than earn a million dollars.

I think that is a sad state of mind. Every day, for most of us, our self-esteem or feeling of self-worth is under assault. We think we’re: too fat, too skinny, not fast enough, not strong enough, not smart enough, not pretty enough, not gifted enough, the list goes on and on. 

True accomplishments

The only thing that saves us from the onslaught of self-doubt is our list of accomplishments in life. I don’t want to get side-tracked on what we define as accomplishments because I can assure you that “true” accomplishments vary quite drastically from “societal approved” accomplishments.

Personally, I think it’s important to keep in mind all the little things we do in life, and maybe, just maybe, they aren’t as little as we may think. Your success in life – I define success as living a happy purposeful life – depends in large part on how we feel about ourselves. [Note: this is dependent upon how we feel about ourselves and not how we perceive others feel about us.]

Therefore, it is often the small victories that we achieve in life that help us suppress these negative waves of “I’m not good enough.”

We often hear and say how much better we feel when we lose 10 pounds, or how much better we feel once we get back in shape … or how much better we feel because we have a clean house. Yes, it is true that these things can make us feel better physically, but I think that the true “feeling better” stems from the victory we scored by forcing ourselves to accomplish these feats. 

Never underestimate the power of feeling good about yourself! 

Remember, you are your greatest asset. Now go earn that million dollars! – if that’s really important to you. If not, quit wishing someone would give it to you! And that’s worth a lot. 

Soulful Quote:  “Self-esteem is the reputation we acquire with ourselves” – Nathaniel Branden 

[Note the word acquire (the small victories) and not give.]

Song: “Greatest Love of All,” by Whitney Houston

Game Exercise/Life Changer: Answer the question for yourself and check your Self Reliance gauge! 

Homonyms – Liken or Lichen. Say what?

What’s this have to do with living a happier life?

Southern dialogue is well known for running words and phrases together as to shorten ‘em. It was long said that this was because us’ens here in the south are lazy. Well y’all, I’m just here to tell you that I don’t think it’s laziness. I like to think we’re just efficient. 

Another example is “liken.” It is used in place of “like something or a comparison. Example: I “liken” his temper to that of a rattlesnake, or I “liken” her to a rose, beautiful from a distance but if you get too close you might get an ouch!

There is also a living organism called a lichen. That’s what’s called a homonym – when two words sound alike but have different meanings. Yes, yes, I know “liken” isn’t a real word according to Webster and the likes, but it would certainly be found in any southern dictionary. 

What’s that on the tree?

Back to lichens. Rachel just recently found a very interesting article on lichens.  https://awaytogarden.com/what-lichens-are-telling-us-with-dr-james-lendemer/ Other than a few questions from people asking me, “what’s that growing on that tree?” I haven’t thought much about lichens since biology class many moons ago. Upon reading this article, I realized that there is a lot about lichens I have forgotten or probably never learned. lichen on a tree

For example, lichens are actually a combination of fungi and algae. They live symbiotically, meaning they help each other out. The fungi protect the algae and the algae feed the fungi. Then there’s this other critter that’s often involved called a “water baby.” A water baby is a small invertebrate, meaning it has no backbone (and, we’ll just leave that for the time being lol).

What does this have to do with happiness?

Okay, okay, I know, enough of the science lesson. What does this have to do with being happy? Well, think about it. There is this whole little system going on in this seemingly simple lichen. We see them growing on rocks, trees, soil and almost anywhere. Looking at a lichen, who would ever think that this complex ecosystem exists in this seemingly simple looking thing growing on a rock? To some, it doesn’t even look alive.

Here are two takeaways from lichens to live a happier life:

  1. We live in a vast universe in which we really know so little. Our own individual lives are such a small fraction, yet our role is vital to the entire system. This is why it is so important for you to know your role and not follow the herd. To make your own path.
  2. The fungi, the algae, and the water baby all living intertwined together. Each fulfilling their role. None worried about which is stronger, which is prettier, which is smarter, or which possess more. They just fulfill their role to help each other.

I liken, lichen to the way we aught live!

Soulful Quote: 

Lichen up, and find and fulfill your purpose – life is short!

Song:

One” by U2

Game Exercise/Life Changer:

Go forth and see if you can find a lichen operating near you! And enjoy the outdoors, it’s spring!
If you find some really good lichen, send us a pic!

Smile. Go ahead, pass it on.

You’ll be better off

I am not always a fan of the insta-message posted on church signs, but I am a huge fan of smiling. Forcing yourself to smile can change your mood. Change it for the better that is.

Now I’m not saying that it is always easy, but it is doable. There have been times when I’m having one of “those days” that I literally have to go in front of the mirror, and using my fingers, force a smile. I will stay in that position until I can walk out of the bathroom maintaining the smile. Dale Carnegie in his bestselling book (for decades, I might add) How to Win Friends & Influence People very early on discusses the value of a smile. Here’s a couple of his words:

  • “Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, “I like you. You make me happy. I   am glad to see you” p.63
  • “Your smile is a messenger of your good will” p.69
  • “Your smile brightens the lives of all who see it” p. 69

It’s amazing how this simple act can positively not only change our moods for the day but all those who we come in contact with as well.

Change a life one day at a time. SMILE!

The power you posses by simply smiling and causing others to smile: Amazing!

 

Soulful Quote: 

“For nobody needs a smile so much as those who have none left to give” Dale Carnegie.

Song:

Smile,” by Nat King Cole

Game Exercise/Life Changer:

This week, find a way to cause someone else to smile. Repeat often! (Also a featured day in Don’t Be a Cow!)

And this will make you smile. Pass it on. (One of our earliest videos, with the original BOOK COVER!)